As broadcast narratives about incels, or involuntarily celibates, procreate, if you’re a student, you may be asking yourself what makes someone become an incel? This subset of society is comprised mainly of young men who feel entitled to sex with women and in the most extreme cases believe violence is a solution for their relational and sexual frustrations.
If we talked a few years ago, kids were left on their own as the parents had to work for an extended period almost the whole day. They did not have time to give a company to their children, and that was the reason that children find neighbours or friends to play and spend time while parents were away.
But nowadays, the internet is on a trend, and youth is spending all the time over the internet. Instead of playing with friends, they got online video games and other social activities to spend time with. The type of these kinds of children is known as latchkey kids.
What makes someone incel? How someone desires to look better than others? How a person finds himself acceptable by the surroundings and society? How is a person eager for the sexual relationship with the opposite gender?
We all know that every person has desires and wishes. Based on all of these desires, he looks forward to life goals. In this race, he finds himself struggling towards excellence while competing with other fellows in the same field.
Someone grows up and moves forward, and while on the other hand, someone gives up and does not move forward anymore. The lack of confidence turns someone in the deep thoughts that he is not acceptable by society and other fellows are better than him.
According to my best knowledge, this case is often found in young aged boys. Someone is this tracked because of his fixed mindset, and someone is because of his thoughts about others.
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The latest study shows that many of the young aged guys have looked forward to the plastic surgery to reshape their face. Many of them did this because of looking better than others or reshaping themselves according to the face of that person who is the most liked one in society.
The opposite gender attraction is also the case where many guys want to be liked by beautiful girls. They feel jealous of other guys having many relationships, and they have none. The frustration then ends up on plastic surgery by vanishing up their natural shapes and giving their face an artificial look.
Does someone become an incel if he studies abroad? What characteristics make one vulnerable to it?
If you are a student, you worried about your life goals or your career. One may gain an opportunity to study abroad. Here is the fact incel arises in the mind of the majority of us.
When someone goes abroad, then he begins to miss his parents and the closed ones — especially the buddies and the friends’ circle with whom he memorably spent his life. The thoughts of loneliness then turn himself towards depression. He faces the new society over there. He tries to do something to be acceptable by society. In the race of popularity and friends’ circle, he then finds himself many steps backwards than others.
There is also another fact of sexual relationships with the opposite gender, which turns himself towards frustrations. He thinks he is not so good looking, and that is why he may not be acceptable by the society of that nation. His mind then turns towards the deep thoughts about the eagerness of looking better and better, which ends up on plastic surgery.
Now let us discuss the characteristics that can make someone vulnerable to it. Incels are extremely unstable and ethically incompetent, they have either an edgy moodiness about them or a moralistic tone of jejune abstentions and a justice of their own making often to prevent their sorrows and frustrations by that which provokes them.
They think that if a woman denies your subtle signals, then that always means one should try harder until they are engaged in a bit of trickery, occupying you in harmony and hitting you with a lemon which would be offensive to refuse. They expect you not to as they seek you are stating you have a boyfriend possibly.
Then they get angry that you weren’t polite forgetting that they kept on pressing in light of rejection like activists of animal rights who provoke riot squads to abuse them until you are forced to acknowledge them as the trailer trash that wishes it wasn’t. It happens to men too, they send their friends and shit, to pressure you.
It does not always mean that someone who studies abroad would become an incel. I think it depends upon the two major factors, one is your mindset, and the other is the way you are nurtured in your childhood. Let us discuss how mindset depends? A person has two types of mindset, growth mindset and a fixed mindset.
A fixed mindset refers to failures and no willings to improve mistakes. A person is simultaneously moving under a circle of failures and gives up. On the other hand, the growth mindset is the learning ability from failure. A person with a growth mindset can never stop until he reaches his destination.
He learns from his failures and improves his past mistakes for the betterment of his future, and achieves whatever he wants. The way someone is nurtured also depends because someone is grown in the eagerness of getting something done; on the other hand, someone is grown up under a bad company and stressy environment.
So, each and everything is in your hands. You can become an incel or not, and it depends upon your thoughts, beliefs, emotions, mindset, and life long goals. A sexual relationship with women is also a case found in many persons who were incel. They were in a depression and were victims of frustrations.